MARRIAGE- A SACRED BOND

Sangeet, Mehandi, haldi and many more are awaiting,

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dresses ready, it is the season of wedding. 

But, what is the real meaning of marriage?

  It is a sacred bonding that takes place between two different individuals during the                             auspicious ceremony. The basic motive of marriage is the UNITY OF THE DIVINE SOUL.

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From the early times only there has been no such auspicious bond like marriage. This bond is the sole witness of the fact that even unknown individuals can happily and fruitfully drive the tiers of life. It addresses that trust can build an entirely different abode for an individual.  

But I don’t get a point that with such a pure feeling how are such materialistic things involved in it, see what I want to signify is the purpose or the act of dowry.

From where did this orthodox system of dowry came and how did this get associated with marriage?

It is believed that during the rules of kings and queens, when their daughters used to get married, the essential things that were required like jewellery, clothes, daasis (servants), etc., were sent along with them to protect them from any difficulties that they might face in the new environment. But slowly and gradually the act or the ritual which was just associated with the marriages of kings and queens now came in view in the lower strata’s also and this was the time when dowry a word which was not that much famous came in front of the people which now is one of the biggest problems prevailing in our country.

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Now you might wonder, okay it is acceptable that it started like this but how did it took such a devastating outlook, how did a woman getting married get associated with all the other materialistic things?

Like a child follows what his/her parents do, it was expected at that time that the dwellers of a kingdom should follow what their king did. So, this act became famous, everyone used to give some of their belongings with their daughters who were tied under this sacred bonding of marriage and this was given the name of ‘DAAN’ (donations) which a father has to give it to her daughter as the ritual demanded. But as the wheel of the time moved further, men were regarded as superior and women were related to the lower sections. This was the time when a ritual took the face of discrimination and sufferings.

Later on the families of groom started demanding goods from the bride’s side; from clothes to jewellery they needed everything because the girls were considered as a burden on their parents and were sometimes thought as a bane on the family. So it was supposed and was very much necessary to get rid of a girl. Using this fact dowries were demanded with an open mouth and if anyone dared to say no, his daughter will not be married to anyone and further the family might be abandoned by the whole community.

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You know like a child throws a toy and brings a new one same started happening with the women. From that point, marriages were started to be treated like business.

You know the greed of the people grew to such an extent with the passage of time that after bringing a huge amount of cash, jewellery, furniture and clothes the groom’s family never got satisfied, for each and every event either a function or a ceremony they wanted their daughter-in-law to bring them gifts from her parent’s. If her parent can’t afford to gift her family, the girl has to face the torture and they behave such carelessly and with such brutality that the victims sometimes do not have words to define but their wounds narrate the story of the cruel behaviour that they must have faced. India has witnessed and is witnessing thousands of cases of domestic violence out of which the majority are because of the reason of dowry.

These greedy families either have a heart that is of stone or they do not have a heart at all. You only tell how someone can push a pregnant woman from the second floor of the house just for the sake of money. This all is happening in front of us and what are we doing? It is that either we have closed our eyes and are just ignoring it or we are just maintaining the silence and are witnessing this crime. You know it is rightly said: You are a criminal if you witness a crime and be silent about it.

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We may think that we have made it to moon and even to the mars and in future may conquer all other planets also, if you term this all as development then you are wrong, and I would even say that you are absolutely wrong. Till the time all such criminality is prevalent; no country or nation can fulfill the definition of progress.

I would just like to make a request that please do treat others the way you

treat yourselves.

 Just don’t behave like animals if you have taken birth in a human skin!!